Saturday, April 14, 2012

In Praise of Housewives...

by Dr. Ada Fisher
Democratic operative Hilary Rosen who assists Democratic National Committeewoman Deborah Wasserman Schultz, said of Ann Romney that she has 'never worked a day in her life.' The Democrats continue their war on women being given a pass via having other women do their dirty work to obfuscate facts in their record they’d rather not have others see. As is rightly being pointed out, it is the failed Obama policies that have seen women represent over 90% of the jobs lost and even in his own White House data shows their staff women being paid 18% less than their male counterpart. We can no longer blame Bush for the direction of mishaps and blunders being made by Democrats and this Obama Administration. Maybe they think appointing two women to the Supreme Court neither of whom has had to rear their own child gives them some ‘creds’ with women; but, forget it.
It took me years to appreciate that the hardest job women have is in raising a family. My mother had six children and she called us her jewels choosing to raise us rather than leave our care to others or take a paid position in the work force. Yet as a preachers wife my mother and namesake wrote the church bulletins, addressed in her own handwriting the over one thousand membership pledge cards, kept the tabulations on the church athletic teams which would become the Durham, NC city leagues, cooked for thousands, chaired the PTA, was secretary of the YWCA, repaired clothes in the church’s clothes closet as well as turned collars, sewed buttons, darned holes and became my ‘Sheroe’ as depicted in my completed but not released biography of her. Like millions of other women, my mother who was a well educated homemaker, sat at the heart of volunteerism in America assuming unpaid, largely unrecognized and extraordinarily time consuming positions which greased the wheels with her caring hands and open heart. Abraham Lincoln appreciated the work of these and other women in noting “The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world.”
Though I never wanted to be a housewife and do not have a domestic bone in my body, my adopted sons brought the pain and pleasure of having children front and center giving me a very different appreciation for housewives and the work they do. For those ladies who choose to be housewives and can afford not to work or for those willing to help those of us with children who have required their assistance, we owe them a debt of gratitude for they helped us become who we are.
Any political party seeking to disadvantage and castigate women in their chosen roles because of their sex, control of procreation of the human species or career choices does a disservice to women and humanity. Don’t belittle or begrudge a family women who can afford the luxuries of life, G-d knows we deserve them. Though I don’t ride horses as the more affluent may chose, a dinner out with dancing or a movie or even maybe a nice Mother’s Day Card is always appreciated, particularly from the hands of our children and significant others for whom we willingly sacrifice our opportunities as well as ourselves.
Dr. Ada M. Fisher is a PHYSICIAN, author, gifted public speaker, licensed teacher for secondary education in mathematics and science, previously elected school board member, AUTHOR and IS THE nc rEPUBLICAN nATIONAL cOMMITTEEWOMAN. Contact her at P. O. Box 777; Salisbury, NC 28145; DrFisher@DrAdaMFisher.COM Pending book Common Sense Conservative Prescriptions Solutions Good For What Ails Us, book I from